The Basic's
A female friend once told me that there are three kinds of men
in this world. The 95% the 1% and the 4%. She said that all guys
fit into one of these categories, some fit into one or more, but
fill the shoes of all three. Since the time she told me this I've
incorporated it replace with everyone; male or female. Now then
the 1% and 4% person will be a Hopeless Romantic while the 95%
fills the rest of the gap!
The Break Down
You're probably thinking I'm nuts now but hear me out then you
can make your own assumptions. The break down goes like so,
starting from worse to best:
The 95% Person:
This person is usually the one that is most "liked."
This person's characteristics are that of the typical
"jerk." They believe that a date should involve a
bedroom, back seat or back row of a movie, at some point. They
also believe that they "deserve" things. They usually
abuse someone's love, caring and compassion. In fact they view
the relationship as a game and a challenge, constantly trying to
get to the next level or to someone better, but never caring
about who they hurt. True we are all looking for someone better
or the "one" but most of us do it in a more caring
manor and less like a sport!
Most H.R.'s (Hopeless Romantics) usually find this person to
be their arch enemy. They are constantly losing "loved
ones" to these type of people and more than often are
picking up the pieces as well. Don't always blame the 95% person
for their actions, some don't comprehend what they are doing and
when pointed out can actually reform, but still more just brush
off the suggestion's as unimportant gibberish.
Some of the stereotypes that are found in this category are:
the jock, the playboy, the womanizer, the seductive woman, and
anyone else that lives life by the seat of others pants! True not
all person's in these stereotypes fit the bill but most do.
The 4% Person:
This is the essence of a person who is a
Hopeless Romantic. They are usually the perfect guy or girl but
are usually just friends or too good to be true. Most 4% person's
find themselves giving more than receiving but do not seem to
mind. They are easily taken advantage of and are usually a 95%
person's favorite "kill." Most 4% persons like quiet
evenings and other things that will make a 95% person gag! They
are the ones that are considered nice, romantic,
"perfect" and sometimes even to good to be true.
A 4% person may feel that they will never find anyone for
themselves, or that they never get a true chance to prove
themselves. They also feel that they can help anyone and often
try to offer advice even if it goes against them. They are the
shy people for the most part and those that are outgoing are
usually hiding deep feelings and pain. They enjoy romantic
settings and are constantly trying to improve on their actions.
They enjoy challenges but don't often do well in them and hear
the phrases "let's just be friends", "I don't
want to lose you as a friend", and the worst one yet "You're
too good for me". (good can also be replaced with a
multitude of words such as nice, kind, etc..)
The 1% Person:
This person is a blend of the
above or someone who jumps back and forth between the two types.
I've added this one myself to incorporated those that can't seem
to fit into just one niche`. Don't feel bad if you're in this
group, it doesn't mean you're not a H.R. is just means that
you're adaptive to your surroundings. Usually these people switch
on and off from type to type depending on the person they are
dating. One time they might be 95% the other 4%, it can even vary
from day to day or min to min. But in order to be in this group
the actions have to be true and not an "act." In other
words you don't become a 4% because you know it will allow you to
get what you want!